Opet ja s odnosima i ljubavi, a šta ću, kad mi je tak’a priroda da o tome razmišljam.

Ovo je jedan kontemplacijski, pa ćemo vidjet što će nastati. Možemo krenuti od toga da nam se nekako neminovno uvijek netko sviđa. Ne znam, jeli tako? Reci ti meni. Ili je to tako samo nama “mladima”. Pa čak i onima koji kažu da nisu bili u vezi godinama i da im se nitko ne sviđa, mislim da ipak postoji ispod toga neka preferencija, neka željica. Ne nagovaram sada da svatko prizna da je uvijek neko sviđanje u pitanju, nego pokušavam uspostaviti činjenicu da smo uvijek malo zaljubljeni. Bilo to u osobu koja nam se sviđa, ili prijateljicu/prijatelja koja/i nas oduševljava, pa je tu ipak malo jači osjećaj nego prijateljstvo. Ili u nešto, ne nužno u nekoga: pjesma koju smo nedavno otkrili, novi akord na gitari, nova žitarica za skuhat. Stara slika nam može pobuditi sjećanje iz djetinjstva koja nam izazove — pokušavam napipati taj neki lagani ili jači osjećaj ispunjenja, zadovoljstva, ushićenja. Sreća s malom dozom sramežljivosti. Crvenilo u licu, neko unutarnje oduševljenje.

OK. Mislim da sam ga našla. I šta sad s tim? Pa uobičajeno je da s tim automatski hoćemo nešto. Što nešto? Ma nije važno, samo da je nešto “više” (više, u smislu veće, i više, u smislu duhovno obuhvatnije, šire). Samo da je nešto još. Ekstra. Daj. I onda se automatski generira nezadovoljstvo ako to nije tako. Jučer sam gledala u svoj tanjur za ručkom, u njemu je bilo fino jelo od mrkve i neke druge zanimljivosti, uhvatila sam se razmišljajući o tome kako ću otići po još mrkve. Odmah sam počela brže jesti, um mi je bio sto posto fokusiran na bližu budućnost. Pošto sam sjedila sama, i pošto je mrkva bila jako fina, nekako sam stala, i shvatila što radim. Prestala sam “trpati” na par trenutaka, vidjela što se događa u glavi, a ostatak jela polako, s punom pažnjom i nisam uzela još kad sam bila gotova. Nije bilo potrebe. Hrana je najmanje važna, ona služi kao primjer kako radimo stvari. Imam jednog prijatelja kome se netko sviđa, i umjesto da uživa u tom lijepom osjećaju zaljubljenosti, veselja kad vidi tu osobu, osjećaju ispunjenosti u njenom samom prisustvu – grozničavo razmišlja o onome što je u loncu, a ne na tanjuru. Hahaha. Svakako nam se to svima često događa, ali STANI MALO. Grickaj čipi čips. Koji dobar slogan. Stani malo, i vidi ono što imaš na tanjuru. I nježno uživaj u onome što je ponuđeno SADA.

Isto tako i s planovima u budućnosti. Možda za neke naivno, ali ja apsolutno vjerujem u to da će se priroda/božanska priroda/bog/guru/svemir/ljubav pobrinuti za mene. To ne znači da pasivno ležim i čekam da mi jabuka padne u usta, nego dođem do stabla, popnem se, znajući da ako je stablo jabuke, da ću tu najvjerovatnije i naći jabuku. Obično čekamo 10 metara od stabla i pitamo se zašto meni stablo ne daje jabuke, ili se popnemo na krušku i žalimo se kako nema jabuka. Što sam slikovita danas. Dakle, nekakva ideja, cilj, plan je tu, ali ne mogu se uzrujavati prije nego se približim voćnjaku, moram doći u njega, pa ću onda odlučiti kako i gdje je najbolje brati jabuke. Doduše, imam i Gurua, koji zna bolje od mene što je najbolje za mene, ili kakve dobrobiti svijet može dobiti od mene. On će me slati u voćnjake.  To je olakotna okolnost, nemaju svi Gurue, ili ne žele imati, ili nemaju priliku, ili imaju, ali sumnjaju. Kako se prepustiti neizvjesnosti budućnosti? S malo mozga u glavi, s malo otvorenog srca i vjere. Vjere u to da je život lijep, da i kad je težak da će i to proći. Pogubila sam se, mogla bih sada pisati čitabe o Guruu, ali možda nije svima jednako zanimljivo. Okej, samo jednu kratku pričicu koju sam nedavno čula: Jednom je bila mala grupa ljudi u jednoj kući i Guruji je došao voditi yogu. Počeli su, i on je odjednom stao, i pitao tko je na gornjem katu. Netko je rekao da je gore neki dečko koji čisti. Guruji je rekao da mu netko kaže da je gore jedna vjeverica i da je treba pustiti van. Svi su odmah na to zaboravili i nitko mu nije javio. Nakon nekog vremena je Guruji odjednom stao, i krenuo na gornji kat, dečko koji mi je pričao ovu priču je pošao za njim i vidio ga kako prilazi prozoru ispred kojeg je s unutrašnje strane bila vjeverica, pa ga je otvorio i ona je izašla. Kasnije je rekao: vjeverica se malo uplašila jer je dečko koji je čistio jako bučio.

Ako postoji osoba koja može osjetiti strah male čupave životinjice, i pobrinuti se za nju, a brine i za sve ljude na svijetu koji su u problemu, kako se ne bi brinuo i za mene? Sam se brine za svih, te osnažuje pojedince da se brinu za one za koje se on ne stigne fizički pobrinuti. Temelj božanskog društva je taj, da oni koji mogu pomognu onima koji ne mogu, a oni koji ne mogu da dođu u poziciju u kojoj će moći. Zamisli svijet u kojem svatko tko je u nevolji dobiva pomoć, a svatko tko može je pruža. To je cilj kojem on teži i uspijeva mu. Milijoni! ljudi diljem svijeta su imali dobrobiti od organizacije, što kroz tečajeve, što kroz humanitarni rad. Vidiš kako to krene u jednom smjeru i postane univerzalno. Krenula sam od sebe i svog tanjura, a završavam globalno. Kad se brineš za druge, nemaš se vremena brinuti za sebe. Reci mi koliko bi tanjura mrkve pojeli da oko nas stoji 10 gladne djece? Ne bi pojeli ni jedan komadić. Moram se sad ići pobrinuti za globalno, i pripremiti zadaću za jedan projekt koji sada radimo. A popodne idem asistirati na tečaju koji se organizirao na medicinskom fakultetu. Sada je otvoren za sve koji žele, a ako odaziv i interes budu veći, ići će se na to da tečaj bude dio kurikuluma sveučilišta.

Idem veselo, idem sretno, idem ispunjeno, gledam kako ću podijeliti što imam na svom tanjuru. I svira stvar od Thoma Yorke-a: All for the best!

Upravo to  – sve se događa za Tvoje najbolje i najuzvišenije dobro!

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Here I go again with relationships and love, what to do, my nature is to consider those things.

This one is of the contemplative kind, so let us see what happens. We can start from the fact that one way or the other we somehow like someone. I do not know, is it like that? You tell me. Or is it only for us, youngsters. Even for those who have not been in any relationships in years, must have a certain preference, a liking to someone, a desire. I am not trying to make you admit that a liking is in question, but wish to establish the fact that we are always a little bit in love. Whether it is a person whom we took to our liking, or a female or male friend that gives us a thrill, so there is a tiny bit more than just a friendship in it. Or something, not necessarily someone: a song we recently heard, a newly discovered guitar chord, a new grain to cook. An old photograph can bring back a childhood memory that can evoke that  – – – my best attempt is to say a stronger or lighter feeling of fulfillment, contentment, exhilaration… A happiness that contains a small piece of shyness. A redness in the face, an inner excitement.

OK. I think I got it. So what to do with it? Usually we want to do something with that feeling. What? It does not matter, a long as it is “something bigger” (bigger in the sense more and higher, like spiritually wider). Just as long as it is more; extra. Give it. And then if there is no more, a discontentment is automatically generated. Yesterday I was looking at my plate at lunch. It contained a tasty carrot dish and some other interesting details. I caught myself thinking about having more of the carrot, which automatically made me eat faster. My mind was a hundred percent focused on the near future.

As I was sitting alone and the carrot was so tasty, I somehow stood still and realised what I was doing. I stopped stuffing myself for a few moments, so what was going on in the mind and took the rest of the food slowly, with full awareness and did not have more when I finished. There was no need. The food here is the least of my concern, it serves as an example as to how we do things. I have a friend who has a liking for someone, and instead of enjoying that beautiful feeling of the crush, the joy when they see the person – they feverishly keep thinking about the pots content instead of the plates. Hahaha. We surely have had and keep having this experience a lot, but STOP FOR A SECOND. Have a break, have a —. Such a good slogan. Gently enjoy in what is offered RIGHT NOW.

Take the same idea for plans of the future. Maybe for some it is naive, but I absolutely trust nature/divine nature/God/guru/universe/love to take care. That does not mean I passively wait for an apple to fall straight into my mouth and digest itself. It means I come to the tree; I climb it, knowing it is an apple tree – I naturally expect to find apples. Usually we wait some 10 meters away from the tree and keep wondering why is the tree not giving me apples, or climb a pear tree and look for apples. Today I have a sense of imagination. What I mean is, an idea, a goal, a plan is there, but I cannot let myself be upset before even coming close to the orchard. I need to enter it, and only there can I decide how and where to pick.

I have a Guru, fair enough, he knows better than me what is best or me, or what kind of benefits the world can have from me. He will sent me to orchards. It is a mitigating circumstance, not everyone has a Guru, or do not wish to, or do not have the opportunity, or do but doubt. How to let yourself go to the mercy of an unknown future? Using a little brain, having an open heart and faith. Faith in that life is beautiful, and even when it is tough, that that too will pass. I lost myself a bit here. I could write essays on Guru, but maybe not all will find it interesting. Okay, maybe only one small story I recently heard: There was a small group of people in a house, doing yoga with Gurudev. Suddenly he stopped leading the session and asked who was upstairs. Someone stated there was a boy who was cleaning the house. Guruji said there was a squirrel that needs to be let go outside, and gave instructions to do so. But somehow, no one has done it.  After some time Guruji stopped again a just went upstairs. The person telling the story followed him, saw him come to a closed window in front of which there was a squirrel and letting it out he said: it was just a bit scared because of the noise the boy was making while cleaning.

If there is a person who can feel the fear of a small furry animal and take care of it, and at the same time care for all people in the world who are having problems, how could he not equally care for me? He personally takes care of everyone, empowers individuals to take care of those he physically has not the time to do. The basis of a divine society is that those who can help those who cannot. And those who cannot, come into a state where they will be able. Imagine a world in which everyone who is in trouble gets help, and anyone who can is giving it. That is the goal he is striving to and it is working for him. Millions! of people around the world had benefits from the organisation, through courses, through humanitarian work. See how it goes one direction and becomes universal. It started from my plate and ended globally. When you take care of others, there is no time to worry about yourself. Tell me how many carrot plates would we have if there were 10 hungry children around us? Not a piece. I need to take care of the global now and finish my work for a current project. In the afternoon I will be assisting a course organised by a Medical College. Now, the course is open for anyone, and if the interest is more, the course will be a part of the college’s curriculum.

I go joyously, I go happily, I go with a sense of fulfillment. Seeing how I can share my plate. Thom York is singing: It is all for the best.

Exactly that – everything is happening for your best and highest good!